We are continuing our strong moms post this week. We are always celebrating strong moms and with our births last week, we missed posting a few of our favorites. So today we have Mary Neubauer. She is a mom of two and is super passionate about birth in the Frederick community. We are so lucky to have her as a mom with FMD and even luckier to call her a friend. Read on to see how she talks about being an advocate for yourself and being a strong team with her husband.
Q: Tell us a little bit about yourself and your family. What makes your strong family unique? I'm a mom to a 2 year old and a 2 week old! We live in Brunswick and are pretty average folks. My husband loves all things nostalgia from the 80s and 90s and I love art and nature. Together we are a weird opposite mix but it works for us. I never considered us strong before. But looking back, after battling deep anxiety and depression with my first child, and going through a medical event which included an unexpected Children's NICU stay with my second - I realized we are a lot stronger than we give ourselves credit for. In the midst of it, you just make it through, no matter what because there is no other choice. But looking back (and forward) I realized how we united and battled head on, which is pretty awesome.
Q: Tell us about what being a strong mom means to you? It means being able to know your boundaries, know when to ask for help and to always pay it forward.
Q: When have you felt the strongest in motherhood?
Advocating for myself to go be with my baby in the NICU when we were separated after birth.
Q: When have you felt the weakest?
I feel the weakest when I lose my patience and cool with my kids. Especially my toddler. She needs a lot of attention and is very demanding and that is a tricky balance with a newborn! I hate "losing it" and feeling so low and lost in the depths of motherhood. It makes for a difficult challenge.
Q: Who is a strong mom in your life and why?
My mom is a strong mom! She raised us 3, and while I don't want to share any private details, she dealt with loss and trauma during a challenging time. I'm sure we weren't all easy to parent and my dad travelled a lot for work. I know she struggled with depression too and she is now my go to for all the mom advice!